In the past three days I have directly and indirectly experienced how the words people speak to others can adversely affect a person's mood; their state of mind and how they interact with the people around them. While this is not the first time I have seen the power of words on people, myself included, this week it was more acute, I was more aware - I suppose mainly because I have over the last few weeks making a more concerted effort to be more mindful of how fragile life is, and not waste precious time on the innocuous.
One of the situations reminded me of a conversation with my sensei; it's interesting how hurtful words not spoken directly to us, or at us, still affects us - it's interesting what and who we give power over us. We may repeat the affirmation that the only person we can control is us, and therefore the only person we have power over is ourselves - but it doesn't always play out like that. I am trying to find myself in a better and different mental space, where I not only say that I appreciate life and how fleeting it is but I actually act on it, and make the best of the good moments, spend more quality time with the people who matter, the people who will miss me when I'm gone. Having years of living in the moment, holding on to anger and many other negative feelings makes this journey a bit more challenging, but I think I am up to the task, after all in my 38 years on this earth I have redefined myself many times - and I will do it again.
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